I
am flying thousands of feet in the air—I am on an airplane of course, I still
haven’t discovered how to fly yet but when I do, I will be sure to tell all of
you.
As
I look outside the window, I am reminded of the beauty of the world and the
clouds provided a foggy “mirror” and forced me to realize that I have not been
viewing my life through the right lens. Instead I have been hoarding regrets,
anger, and resentment towards those who have caused me a great deal of pain—plotting
in my head how I could get revenge instead of focusing on moving on.
I
am not a spiteful person and while my tongue may be sharp, I am not one to
cause intentional harm or suffering to anyone. So why has this need for
vengeance swept over me? I don’t know to be honest but I can infer that this
bittersweet desire to get back at those who hurt me is a natural part of coping
and a part of the process everyone goes through. It is human of you to want to
get revenge but you must fight against that urge because revenge comes at a
great price—any comfort you get from that action of revenge will be at the
expense of someone else’s well-being, the cost you would pay is knowing you are
the cause of someone else’s suffering.
You
are probably rationalizing that if someone hurt you first, that you have every
right to hurt them back. That may be a reason but that doesn’t give you the
right to victimize another. To quotes James Baldwin,
“People pay for what they do, and still more, for what they have allowed themselves to become. And they pay for it simply: by the lives they lead."
Let
go of the hurt, let go of the vengeful thoughts you have in your head. Don’t
allow yourself to become bitter—for it will be a bitter life you shall lead for
yourself.
Don’t
let this desire ruin you.
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